After what was supposed to be a wonderful exciting fabulous weekend, I am torn. I am in the middle of an argument between my boyfriend and my best friend. Having caring girlfriends that have been in your life for over 10 years is a blessing. I have 5 really close girlfriends. We have our ups and downs, but no matter what they know I will be there for them and they will be there for me. This weekend we all attended a party in my honor to celebrate an important birthday. It was planned and organized to a T, from a venue, customized cake, professional make up and photography, and of course a beautiful outfit. Everything seemed to be perfect. All of my girlfriends came and we were having a ball with all of the other guests who were in attendance.
As a woman my girlfriends and I have been through so much together. We have seen each other have children, helped each other through tough times, bad breakups, and have told and kept secrets better than the CIA. The relationship I have with them is important. For me I often feel as if my relationships with my friends take precedence over my relationship of under two years with my boyfriend. I love him don’t get me wrong.This is not because I feel that it’s a bad relationship, but this relationship is new compared to my ten years plus I share with each of my girlfriends.
After the party we had a few drinks and were feeling good, until my boyfriend and I got into and argument. This argument escalated in a restaurant so I made the decision to leave our breakfast gathering that included my girlfriends and some of my family. Upon my exit my boyfriend who remained at the table, ans still upset went on to attempt to argue with my friends who had stayed behind. Very hurtful words were exchanged between them because they came to my defense. This caused my boyfriend and one of my closest friends to get into a very ugly heated argument.
I have had a few days to think and feel the distance that is growing between my friends and I. I feel hurt because these ladies have been there for me through trauma in my life that is unspeakable as well as many triumphs and I do not want to lose them. My boyfriend and I have resolved our argument because that’s usually what couples do, we realize that what we were arguing about was stupid, things got out of hand. As my friendships hang on with a thin string, I question myself. Should I mention this to my boyfriend? Should I demand we both apologize? The bonds that we have all built over the years should not be broken over a misunderstanding. As far as relationships and friendships go, I honestly think they should both be able to exist together, therefore choosing between the two for me would be a tragic choice I hope I never have to make.
More Than a Woman 